Category: Friendship
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I’ve Lost a Friend
It finally clicked for me. I was fighting so hard to stay friends with this person who I didn’t even like. I’ve seen behind his mask and I am not impressed.
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Boundary Issues
Late night texts after the break up hit very differently. I had to deal with him texting, “I miss you,” as he built something with someone else.
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More than Words
Every relationship has a hidden account, where action or inaction can increase or decrease the balance. Sometimes, when the Work Bestie is too distant or too silent for too long, it can make a big withdrawal, but the years of solid friendship had already put a lot into that account.
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The Whole Meal
I want to be partners no matter what. If my person is fighting for their life I’m gonna be right beside them swinging at their enemies. When I’m in, I’m all in. There is no à la carte menu.
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These Dreams
Dreams are just weird like that, how something can be totally different, and yet, you just know that that is what they are. The snake, like my crush, was something beautiful that I wasn’t sure if I could trust
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Unimaginable
Sometimes, just when I think things can’t get any darker, they very much do. I was on a work phone call in the backyard when I heard a woman wailing, “no, no, no, no…” It didn’t sound real, like that sort of intensity had to be from a movie being played too loudly somewhere.
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Take This Longing
More than anything, I wanted to love and to be loved, and the answer wasn’t in pursuing or playing hard to get. It almost certainly wasn’t going to be found by smacking my heart down every time it got excited.
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Undertow
Then I remembered something I’ve always known, something I believe every native Southern Californian grows up knowing. When the ocean pulls you one way, you don’t swim in the opposite direction. You’ll never win in a tug-o-war with the sea. Swim on the diagonal.
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Hey Jealousy
I can see he’s beautiful, but there’s no pull. He’s like a brother to me. Also, I knew he liked her. It seemed like benevolent sabotage, setting up two attractive people I wasn’t interested in to keep one of them away from the person I was interested in.